How forgiveness can lead to a great release
I’m talking about forgiveness. Whether I’m doing life-coaching or therapy with somebody, eventually it comes down to forgiveness.
The subject is very misunderstood, so I want to explain a few things.
First, forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning what somebody has done to you. If somebody or some group of people have harmed you in the past that was wrong – it shouldn’t have happened. Forgiveness doesn’t mean acceptance. It just means letting go.
Secondly, it’s personal. You needn’t tell anyone that you’ve forgiven them. I worked once with a woman who was abused by a relative many, many years ago. Her abuser was long gone, yet this incredible lady had held on to tremendous hurt and pain for many decades. I explained to her that she wasn’t hurting the dead man, by this point she was only limiting herself. Read more…